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Phil Ngo's avatar

Hi Lowell,

Saw your show with Grant and how you both elaborated on his sins since the Super Bowl loss. I agree, Kyle's stubborness is his greatest down fall. His inability to learn and insistance on relying on his 'system' to provide all the answers, yet, it does not have any this year.

Kyle is just a system coach, he builds a system and insists on it to the detriment to his whole team. He is not a leader, he makes confounding decisions that makes him look like he strives to be 'one of the boys'. This is not a coach/leader. A leader leads the team and not try to be a member of the team. Unfortunately, I dont see him changing despite all signs pointing to the necessity of evolving.

I do think that stubborness is a 'sin' - it has it's roots in pride of the seven deadly sins. He is too proud of his system and the way he approaches coaching, too proud of his 'genius' to listen to others, too proud to be open to change. This goes to show why pride has always been the deadliest of the seven deadly sins.

Much respect,

Phil

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Scott Amsel's avatar

Hi Lowell,

I love your writing and your perspective. I have felt for some time that Kyle shows elements of a narcissistic personity. (not that other coaches don't also) The stubborness you write about is certainly a hallmark characteristic of that type of person. Inability to learn from mistakes, vindictiveness, blaming others when things go wrong and, perhaps worst of all, playing favorites beyond all sense of logic.

As we are all coming to understand from our current political crisis, narcissists tend to destroy the very things they covet the most. Sadly, this team is finally revealing the truth of that statement. I suppose it is probably somewhat pathological to expect a football team to provide a sense of joy in ones life, but being an ardent 49er fan going on 45 years I certainly am deriving no joy in watching this team melt down.

We need a better, emotionally more stable and generously supportive head coach. Time for a change.

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